Ever Heard of Lifetree Cafe???

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I have some exciting news to share! We are going to be featured in an episode of Lifetree Cafe!!!

Ok, I’ll back up and explain a little :) I used to work at Conscious Cup Coffee, a family owned coffee shop that hosts a Lifetree Cafe after hours on Wed evenings. This particular Lifetree Cafe location is sponsored by Willow Creek Church. I worked this event every week and got to know the couple who lead it, Sheila and Peter Halasz. I also had the privilege of meeting the National Director, Craig Cable, last Oct. We have all become great friends and they have helped me through the good and the bad of Kylie’s pregnancy. Sheila has been particularly instrumental in helping us acquire donated baby items and other help we’ve needed. I owe her a huge debt of gratitude for her generosity and willingness to jump right in.

Anyway, I’ve so wanted to reach other parents like us about our experience.  As I found, even though there are millions of teens out there facing unplanned pregnancies, there’s very little support to be found for the parents of these teens, which is why I started my blog. I then reached out to Craig about being featured for a Lifetree episode. After consulting with his group, they agreed to do it! Craig and his crew are flying in from Denver (Lifetree’s home base) this Friday to interview and film us for the episode! I’m so excited and grateful for this opportunity!!!!

For those of you not familiar with Lifetree Cafe, it’s a safe, nonjudgemental place for people to gather and talk about life topics from a spiritual perspective. Like I said before, this particular Lifetree is sponsored by Willow Creek Church. Although sponsored by various churches, Lifetree is not religion based and is a very comfortable environment no matter what your religious affiliation may, or may not, be.   Here’s a link for you to click on so you can learn more about Lifetree, and find a meeting place near you!  It’s nationwide!!

http://lifetreecafe.com

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Continuing To Catch up…Kylie Is My New Hero

14 Aug

As though Kylie didn’t do enough to earn the title of “Hero” during labor and delivery, she has continued proving what a “Hero” she is since. Her maternal instincts never cease to amaze me. To be a 15 yr old who’s the baby of 4 girls, she’s proving to be such a great mommy. Not gonna lie, we were really concerned about her ability and willingness to take care of a baby. I thought for sure she would assume and expect her dad and me to become the primary caregivers. It’s been the exact opposite. I have to convince her it’s ok for her to ask for help. I’ve had to almost beg her to get me up with her and Dominic at night so I can help her. Although breastfeeding didn’t go well for her, it was important to her for Dominic to get breastmilk, so she pumps everytime he eats. Therefore, feeding times end up taking much longer, so I like to get up with her so she can pump while I feed him so she can get as much sleep as possible.  She does all of this, around the clock, without complaining and even cheerfully sometimes.  She’s a great kid and a great mommy who’s having to grow up so fast, and is doing so with incredible grace.

This whole situation is still proving to be such a blessing in our lives for so many reasons. Don’t get me wrong, life is not all roses right now. Dominic is waking up quite a bit at night, Kylie is exhausted and possibly falling into postpartum depression, there are still bumps in the marriage we’re continuing to overcome, as well as feeling overwhelmed with jobs, helping with the baby, trying to keep up the house, preparing for Kylie to start school and getting her lined up with the homebound program, getting everyone to their doctor appts, and last but not least…knowing when I need to step back and not “help” too much. How do you know where to draw the line? But we’re doing it, and Kylie is a real champ.

Despite Kylie’s struggles, she is still very connected with Dominic. One of the concerns with postpartum depression is the mother disconnecting from the baby and no longer wanting to care for them. That is not the case with Kylie. She remains VERY connected and tuned in with him.

Are you sensing the chaotic bliss we’re experiencing??? :)

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Lots Of Catching Up To Do! First The Birth…

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It’s been a long time since I blogged.  You would’ve thought I would’ve had plenty of time during the two weeks I took off from work to be home with Kylie and Dominic, but nope.  So I’m going to attempt to catch you up on everything that’s happened in the last, almost 4 weeks now, since Dominic was born.  I will likely do that over the next few posts so none of them get too lengthy.   It’s amazing how the blessings and positivity keep rolling in when you finally let go of all the negative, and all the bad stuff.  Here’s to hoping I can keep that trend going!

First, the birth.  There are no words to describe how proud of, and in awe I am, of Kylie.   She is a warrior!!!  She went into labor on Tues night,  July 9th.  She had experienced so much Braxton Hicks activity for so long, some of it very regular and intense, we weren’t even timing contractions anymore.  But Tues night, they seemed a little closer together than usual, so we thought ok, let’s time them just to see.  We tracked for an hour and a half and they were no more than 5 min apart!!!  Cris was upstairs in his “mancave” with a couple of friends, so I went up and said calmly “It’s time to go”  He looked at me so perplexed while one of the guys said “oh!”  Cris thought I was simply telling him it was time for his friends to leave…Lol!!!  He didn’t realize I was saying it was time to go to the hospital!  The only person who got what I said was the only 20 something in the room that said “Oh!”  He was also the only one in the room that wasn’t a father.  I thought that was hilarious!  Cris finally did realize what was going on and we got our stuff together and left for the hospital.  Kylie’s contractions were relatively strong and close together, still 3-5 min apart.

After we got to the hospital, of course they hooked Kylie up to monitors, then checked her.  She was only 2.5 – 3 cm, but they kept her to watch and see what would happen.  After a few more hours she was barely over 3, so the doctor was called and she gave instructions to go ahead and keep Kylie.  I knew it was going to be a long night…and it was.  The next morning the doctor came in and checked Kylie about 7 or 7:30 and Kylie was still barely over 3.   I was so glad when the doctor announced she was going to break Kylie’s water rather than send her home.  Within an hour or so, Kylie’s contractions started intensifying and getting even closer together.  I knew Kylie really wanted an epidural, but didn’t want to keep asking her if she was ready.  That might break down her ability to hang in there, and if you get the epidural too soon, it can slow labor down.  Kylie also knew this and wanted to go as long as she could without so she could keep labor going.  Eventually, her contractions were getting strong enough that she asked for pain meds.  That was funny!  Kylie got so loopy on those pain meds, and was quite funny.  Then the meds wore off…I couldn’t believe how well she was handling her contractions.  Both with and without meds, when a contraction hit, she closed her eyes grabbed hold of whatever was close to her, chair arm, bed rail, my hands, her boyfriend’s hands and her best friend’s hands, squeezed hard and just breathed.  That was it.  No screaming, no moaning, no banging her hands on anything… nothing but focus.

Finally around 1 pm or so, she said, “Mom, I think I’m ready for my epidural”  I told her no problem and got the nurse.  When the nurse came in, she told Kylie to move from the rocking chair into the bed so she could check her.  When Kylie stood up she said “I really feel like I need to push”  to which the nurse responded, “that’s probably just pressure.  You can’t be at the point of needing to push, you were only at 3.5 a few hours ago.  But let’s see what’s going on”  Kylie gets in the bed, the nurse checks her, looks at me and says “She’s at 10!”  Kylie looks at me panicked and says, “No epidural?!?!?”  I said, “No Honey, but you’re almost done now!  You got this!!”  Kylie is now saying, quite calmly I might add, “I need to push.  I really need to push”.  The nurse called for another nurse and told her to call the doctor, and get her here quick.  Then the nurse had to hold the baby in and told Kylie to try to do “mini pushes” until the doctor arrived.  I’m thinking “What the heck are “mini pushes”???”   How do you “mini push” at this point???  But Kylie did.  She was calm, she was in control and she was focused like I’ve never seen anyone be before in my life.  The nurses were amazed and said even THEY couldn’t believe her control and focus.

The doctor arrived in maybe 15 min or so, and rushed over to Kylie as she finished getting geared up.  When Kylie got the urge to push, she grabbed my hands, pulled them up in the air, pushed against them like she was pushing against a wall, and squeezed as hard as she could.  The most sound she made, was this long grunting sound.  Still… no screaming.  She pushed for 8 min, and while I watched, at 1:27 pm, Dominic was born.  The doctor pulled him out and held him up for a second before handing him to Kylie.  The look on her face was priceless.  Her eyes were huge and her jaw was practically on the floor.  It was such a look of sheer amazement.  I wish I could’ve taken a picture of it.  Then they laid him on her chest.  At that point I burst into tears.  When they took him a few min later to clean him up, she grabbed me and hugged me saying she did it and she loved me…over and over.  As the doctor was finishing up with Kylie, she looked at her and said, “Girl, you just put every woman on the planet to shame…including me”   Like I said, she was a warrior and I couldn’t be prouder or more in awe!!  IMG_2484

A few min later, I remembered that months earlier, we were considering adoption.  I walked over to my husband and said “Can you imagine being right here, right now but with an adoptive family waiting to take the baby?  I can’t”  I know I’ve said this before, but I owe so much thanks to all of you for helping save us from that fate.  It’s just a few weeks down the road, and I can already hardly imagine our lives without Dominic.  Thank you all so very much…again!

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He’s here!!!

12 Jul

He’s here!!!

Dominic Allen born July 10th weighed 7lbs 7oz and was 20 3/4 in long mommy and baby are doing beautifully and get to go home today! Details on birth in a few days!

What an ANGEL!!!

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Busy, Panic, Busy, Busy…A Snapshot Into This Past Week

1 Jul

This past week has been a very busy and exciting week! We had shower #2 this past Sat, with of course all the preparation that goes with that, my oldest flew in from Denver for it and since she’s getting married next summer, we went wedding dress shopping. The crib came in so we put that together, finished the nursery and we also had a “false alarm” with Kylie. Whew!

Erika flew in Wed am and she wanted to do some wedding dress shopping while she was here so I could participate. I was so anxious and stressed about the shower and prepping for the baby (we’re only 2 weeks from the due date), that the “OCD” side of me wanted to ONLY focus on those two things. It just felt too overwhelming to try to fit in anything else, other than which of Erika’s favorite meals and restaurants we would try to get to. However, I knew I’d regret it if I didn’t. So I sucked it up, and we went wedding dress shopping. Her best friend from high school met us since she is one of the Maids of Honor and her little girl is the flower girl. They too tried on dresses, as did Kylie since Kylie is a bridesmaid. Kylie looked so cute with her belly poking out from under a bridesmaid’s dress! They all looked beautiful! Erika was gorgeous, but nothing “wowed” her. We finished our day with a late lunch/early dinner, stopped at the store, then went home.

Thursday morning we chilled a little then started getting ready to do more wedding dress shopping and shower shopping. In the middle of everyone getting dressed, and just as I stepped out of the shower, Kylie knocked on my door. She has a habit of always needing something while I’m in my bathroom getting dressed, so I got aggravated and shouted “Really Kylie? Why do you always choose when I’m in the bathroom to knock? You aren’t 5 anymore! What this time?!?!” I cracked my door, her eyes were wide and she had a slightly panicked look on her face. She says “Mom, I think something is happening. I think my water maybe broke. Something is trickling” At that point, I felt like a schmuck. I told her, since it was only a trickle, finish getting cleaned up (it may be her last chance for a few days), and I’d call the doctor. We all finished showering and got our hospital bags packed figuring we’d be heading to the hospital (Kylie’s had her’s packed for 2 weeks now). I called our doctor and she agreed to meet us at her office so she could test the fluid to see if it was amniotic fluid. We were there for about 30 min or so while she examined Kylie and swabbed the fluid. She said Kylie’s bag felt intact and she didn’t think it broke, but she was going to test the fluid anyway. We waited…Finally, the doctor came back in the room and announced, it was not amniotic fluid. Kylie’s water had not broken. It was kinda funny because although Kylie was nervous and a little panicked about having the baby that day, when she found out that wasn’t the case, she was so disappointed and upset…Lol. She’s so ready to be done with this pregnancy. By the time this was over, more than half the day was gone and we were starving. We went out for some lunch and got a call the crib was in, so we decided to forgo dress and shower shopping, go pick up the crib and start on the nursery. My anxiety and stress were mounting. Now we had only Friday to prepare for the shower, plus Erika really wanted to go to one more wedding boutique. So we did (deep cleansing breath). We went to the boutique first, and the first dress Erika put on, she looked in the mirror… and got her “Wow!” moment. This was the one. She still tried on a few more, but they paled in comparison to the first. She was STUNNING! Needless to say, we no longer need to go wedding dress shopping :)

We then somehow managed to finish shopping for the shower, including getting the food, and we headed home. We spent Saturday morning decorating and prepping food, then guests started showing up at around 1. It was open house style where people could come and go from 1-7. It was a HUGE success!!! So many people came and a good time was had by all! I don’t even know how to show my appreciation for all the support!! Kylie is SET!! So much love and words of encouragement, not to mention all the things people brought. I’m still in awe of all the positivity we’ve experienced. Thank you so very much to everyone!!!

I need to give a special thanks to Erika and her fiance, Eric. Without them, I couldn’t have pulled off the shower. They also had to put up with my anxiety. I love you two!!! Thank you to Cris, Kylie, Josie, Rachel and Emily too!!! You guys ROCK!!

We rounded out the week with a big family breakfast I prepared yesterday morning, a little chill time, then off to the airport to drop off Erika and Eric :'( What a GREAT week!!! Here are some photos of the events, minus the photos of dress shopping of course ;)

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Continuing the Celebration

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A very good friend suggested bellycasting Kylie’s tummy, so we did this past weekend.  It was so fun!!!  She’s very artsy and is going to paint it.  It will then be displayed at the shower this weekend as a “guest book” for people to sign.  Then we’ll hang it in the nursery.  I cannot wait to see the finished product!

Kylie went to the doctor this past week and is dilated half a centimeter, the crib should arrive this week and my oldest arrives today from Denver for the shower this weekend.  I also have two friends on “ready” in case Kylie goes into labor while her dad and I are at work since we work 45 min away.  Things are moving along and we are just getting more and more excited…as well as a little nervous.  I’m so glad and feeling such relief in moving forward with excitement, instead of dread!

I saw a fellow blogger feature guest bloggers, including her family.  Since my husband has expressed interest in having his perspective shared, how would you feel about him being a guest blogger here?  Or should I interview him?  Give me your opinions…

 

Photos of the bellycasting…

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Shower One (a.k.a. Baby Brew), Done

23 Jun

 

 

 

 

1010584_10151538810171225_1575098769_nYesterday was Cris’ Baby Brew event (shower #1) and despite a couple of glitches, turned out beautifully!    Given the fact that it was a brew event, Cris opened it to the public on his CK Brewmasters FB page, so we had a couple show up, gifts in hand even, and we made instant friends with them.   It was almost like we always knew them :)  We had quite an eclectic mix of friends show up, and everyone fit together amazingly well.  We had an absolute blast!  It originally started as a “guy” event, but there were just as many women as men.  At one point, the women outnumbered the men!  I can’t thank everyone enough for coming and helping out!!

When Kylie woke up yesterday morning she had dropped and wasn’t feeling well at all.  She was nauseated, unbearably tired and just overall yucky.  But she made several appearances to open gifts and express her gratitude.  She needed to come in frequently to lay down, but hung in there like a trooper.  That was ok though.  Yesterday was all adults and was more about the beer brew than the baby.  Next weekend will be all about her and the baby and she will have several of her friends here, as well as mine.  Needless to say, there will be no beer :)

So today will be cleaning up from yesterday, and beginning the planning for shower #2!

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